You Will Respect My Authoritah!

I understand when you put yourself on the Internet that you open yourself up for criticism, but I never imagined that it would get this ugly. Last night, I became really scared when a commenter told me that people could trace where I work, and that I could get fired. I have 3 kids that I have to provide for and whom depend on me for health insurance. The thought of losing my job scares the hell out of me! I knew that theoretically people could trace where I work, but I didn't realize people would actually do it. I just write a blog for God's sake!  I immediately went into mommy defense mode and shut down my blog. I spent the night and this morning being terrified and distraught. Now that the initial shock is over and my emotions have subsided, I am able to think more clearly.

So here's the deal. First, my email address has changed. Note the change on my sidebar. I have a good reputation with my employer at which I have worked for the past 10 years. My blog is in no way affiliated with my place of employment, and I have the right to have a personal blog, so you need not bother with the scare tactics anymore.

Secondly, moderation will be much stricter going forward. I wanted to have a unmoderated atmosphere, but I've realized that it's just not possible. It seems people from other websites who are not regular readers come on here in droves just to bash me for bashings sake. I will no longer tolerate it. If you leave a comment that is not productive to the discussion at hand or is just down right nasty then it will be promptly deleted and never see the light of day. Don't waste your time or mine. I don't expect everyone to agree with me or like me, but you will respect me on my site. If you want to talk shit about me then you'll have to do it somewhere else. They make websites specifially for people who don't have a life other than to bash other people. Go there and knock yourself out. I will not allow you to take over my website with your hatemongering.

Lastly, I want to assure everyone that my ex-husband nor my kids are hurt by these recent posts. I talked with my ex-husband this morning and he was shocked and saddened by people's reaction to them. He said he was sorry this had happened to me and that he didn't understand the reaction because this was old news. He doesn't read my blog anymore, nor does he care to. Besides, he read these emails months ago. He's moved on, has a girlfriend, and we have joint custody of our kids - end of story. He laughed when I told him there were whole websites dedicated to bashing bloggers and that the people from these websites felt the need to defend his honor. People, if he doesn't care then neither should you! As far as my kids go, I have spoken with them many times, and they understand that the separation was not their fault in any way. I show them I love them by my actions. If they read this someday, I'm fine with it. I want them to know what happened and why I did what I did. I want them to know that they have choices in life and that I will always support them no matter what decisions they make. 

So, eveyone behave themselves and let's try this again shall we? Geez, I feel like I'm talking to my children...