You Can Lead a Horse to Water...

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Dress: Anthropologie Speckled Grid Dress
Boot: Anthropologie Brass Band Booties
Belt: Anthropologie
Ring: The Limited
White Legs: C/O No Sunlight

"And I'm riding in to meet you on a brown gray speckled mare, but there's something that unnerves me, thinking no one really cares, and I'm jumping over fences on this obstacle course, but it seems I'm getting nowhere on the concept of the horse." - Andrew Bird

I loved horses as a little girl. I guess one could say I was obsessed with them. They were the Anthro of my childhood. I took riding lessons at a horse farm where I was also responsible on certain days for feeding, watering, and grooming the horses. It was like heaven to me. My favorite breed of horse was the Appaloosa. I just love how the coat pattern on each one is unique. I especially loved the ones with "speckles."

As I was putting on this dress, I found myself thinking of the Appaloosa. Although I don't ride anymore, I still love them to this day. I always point them out to Jerry when I see one. Thinking about the Appaloosa got me thinking about a song by Andrew Bird. It's one of my favorites by him, and it sums up exactly the way I've been feeling about the blog lately.

I have nothing but positive intentions for this blog. I want to express myself creatively, inspire people, and be someone they can relate to. I do this by being myself and sharing my thoughts and experiences. The problem is when you are brutally honest, you open yourself up for brutal criticism. I find myself asking if the blog is worth all the negativity I receive. It seems no matter what I say lately, some people take it the wrong way. These people don't seem to care about the real issues I'm trying to address. They'd rather nitpick over my grammar, political correctness, or how I spend my money. Instead of focusing on the positive message I'm trying to convey, they choose to diminish my message by finding something in my words to judge me by. It's frustrating to say the least, and I feel very misunderstood. 

So, what do you do? I've had people suggest I just shut down my blog since it draws so much negative attention. They can't understand how I can get any pleasure out of it. I don't want to give up and let the terrorist win. So, I thought I would get all the negative things I already know about myself out here, so maybe, MAYBE, some people won't feel inclined to point them out to me anymore, and we can focus on the real issues I'm trying to discuss. I have a tendency to make grammatical errors, I'm not aware of all the proper politically correct lingo, I have bad hair days, my nose is not ideal, I spend my money on frivolous things, I don't always make the right decisions...Well, I could go on and on, but the general idea is I'm human, I'm not perfect, and I make mistakes. I not trying to beat a dead horse (pun intended), but I just hope going forward, we can skip over the obvious and try to focus on the more important things, like the actual point of my post.     

Andrew Bird - Case In Point

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22 comments:

  1. i hope you don't shut down your blog! i love reading your posts. i love this outfit, and your hair is so beautiful in this picture!

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  2. I say,go ahead with your blog. "YOUR BLOG" being the operative words. If others don't like it, well ,to quote my older brother,"Fuck 'em and feed 'em fish heads!" I don't read them every day, but I enjoy the ones I do read. I too enjoy fashion and I like your pictures. Keep it going, if YOU want to. Just don't let the bastards run you away from something you enjoy.

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  3. Gorgeous, natural look. I'm loving it.

    Lauren
    mildmediumhot.net

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  4. Just so everyone knows, I'm not entertaining shutting down the blog. Just venting about my frustrations.

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  5. Hi Bonnie, how about wordless blog or keep the words to minimal and that way nobody will complain about the grammar lol

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  6. I really enjoy your blog. My daughter and I both are readers and get lots of incentive in styling fashions from you. I think people who are critical should just back off making comments. It is not necessary, but unfortunitely people seem to want to focus on the bad instead of the good. We love the pictures and I especially thought the recent ones in the cotton field were amazing-the Antho top was lovely and the cotton made the background...

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  7. This dress look amazing on you. I wanted to get it but it did nothing for me---on you, fantastic!

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  8. This dress looks amazing on you! I wanted this dress so badly, but it did nothing for me--on you, fantastic!

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  9. Margaret RosenfeldOctober 16, 2011 at 1:02 PM

    I have read your blog for a long time. Yes there was a storm but I think it has passed. People who were drawn here only by that storm actually have very very short attention spans and their attention turns to some new storm elsewhere in the blogosphere. I have read your blog for a long time, as an Anthro blog, and I am still here, glad to see new outfits but also glad to hear your thoughts on your life. I don't know if I have commented before but can say that while your story is unique to you, it is also universal.

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  10. Thanks for sticking with me so long Margaret! I appreciate your comment!

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  11. Thanks Carla! It's funny you like the cotton field ones, because I was really disappointed in them. Jerry used a wide-angle lens and it gave the pictures a different look that I wasn't digging. Several people have commented on how much they liked those particular pictures, though. Guess I don't know everything!

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  12. LOL! It's funny you say that, because I've noticed the blogs GOMI likes have very little written word. I guess if there isn't any content there isn't anything to critique.

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  13. The nasty comments do get to me, but I also think they have been good for me. I've definitely learned to take criticism better. At this point, I'm just getting annoyed at hearing the same things over and over again from people. I'm glad most of the "mean people" have moved on, but I want the stragglers to go on too. LOL! Thanks for sticking with me and reading about my crazy life!

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  14. I don't have any plans of shutting down. Thanks for the kind words!

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  15. Love those boots with that dress. I've never really worn boots with dresses and skirts, but now you've inspired me to break out of my comfort zone and try it for fall.

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  16. I said this in a previous comment but I think you need to let go of what people do and say and just focus on you and your loved ones. Who cares if people have negative comments. Yes there will always be people who will criticize you whether your blog or not, that's life. I think the problem isn't people's comments, it's that you need to learn how to deal with this issue, and I mean in general not just with the blog. It keeps coming up over and over again. I can't remember if you said you are in counseling or not. If so this seems like a big personal issue of yours that would be good to discuss. In my view, the level you are affected by strangers' comments and what others may think of you seems excessive, that's just my personal opinion. Now on a lighter topic, wow to your outfit. I love the outfit and the colors on you, how it all goes together, the reddish belt and red in the boots and the red in your hair. And I love the light grey of the dress and boots. Beautiful.

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  17. Uh, aren't you too old to be wearing these clothes? You look ridiculous.

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  18. LOL! What should I be wearing in my old age? House coats and orthepaedic shoes?

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  19. Ha! When my mom and I went shopping recently, I said I was fine with any shoes she wanted to wear as long as they weren't 'the O word.' Yay for you for keeping your lovely fashion sense!

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  20. You are kind of encouraging the nastiness. Maybe it is not intentional on your part, but you really are. The best way to get people to STFU is ignore them.

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