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Dress: Anthropologie Lucerna Dress
Cardigan: Old Navy
Boots: Frye Paige Tall Riding Boots
Necklace: AE

"Where's that thought that thought uncomplicated things? Where's that peace of mind that peace that made it easy? Where's that simple day that simply made it nice to be in? Where did it go?" - Imogen Heap

I had really straight hair as a little girl. My mom didn't want to deal with long hair, so she kept mine cut short until I was in the third grade. I pretty much looked like a boy in my first 3 school pictures. Of course, I still look like a boy to some people, but that's a whole 'nother story... Anyway, in the next 3 school pictures, I had the same hair style - long and stick straight. In 6th grade, I decided to do what all the cool kids were doing at the time and get my hair permed. My hair has never been the same since. 

That stinky perm turned my hair into a frizzy, unmanageable mess for life. The rest of my school pictures are pretty sad. My hair was always wider than it was long. Thank goodness that wasn't such a bad thing in the late 80's. In the 90's, it started to be a problem, though. I was so happy when I discovered the round brush and hairdryer trick to straightening my hair. Of course, it was not without it's problems. I burned my hair pretty bad a couple of times. Uh, that was awful...the smell of burning hair is one of the worst. 

The dawn of the new millennium introduced me to the best solution I had found so far for my hair problems. The CHI flat iron. No other flat iron could tame the beast that was my hair like the CHI. This thing was seriously a miracle-worker. The CHI's only nemesis was the weather.  Let's just say, humidity was, and still is, a bitch.

After years of fighting the good fight, I decided to throw all caution to the wind and go out into the world with my hair untouched. I was horrified at the thought that people were going to point and laugh at me everywhere I went, but that didn't happen. In fact, a few people told me they liked it!  I felt free at last! I started letting my hair dry naturally more often. The only down side was I had to wash it everyday. This natural style does not look good after it's been slept on, and brushing it is simply out of the question, so I went back to my flat ironing ways.

Today is the first time I've worn my hair curly in awhile. Life has been really stressful lately, and I needed to simplify some things. The hair routine was the first thing to go. I didn't really believe people when they said the first year of separation is the hardest. "First year? First few months maybe," I said to myself. "How could one feel bad for an entire year?" Yeah...I'm a believer now. I had one of the worst days so far yesterday. It was a Hell on Earth kind of day. I'm sure many people think I deserve it. Anyway, I really hope I don't have one of those again for awhile. 
   
Imogen Heap - Leave Me To Love

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27 comments:

  1. I really like your natural hair...it looks good on you. I'm sorry that you had a bad day yesterday, hopefully you won't have any more of those days in the near future. You certainly don't deserve it.

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  2. This is such a great look for you. That dress is super-flattering and I love your hair!

    I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. No matter how good of a choice it might be, divorce sucks. My ex-husband and I have been apart for over six years and I still feel sad, angry, frustrated, [insert negative emotion here] about it sometimes. It gets easier, but the feelings never really go away entirely.

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  3. Sorry you had a bad day, but your hair looks awesome! I love the whole look. My hair is naturally wavy/curly too, I just go with it. It's too long and thick for flat irons, I just don't have the time or patience these days!

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  4. Your hair looks awesome like that! I'm really jealous of the waves.

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  5. AAHHH!!! I LOVE it. Absolutely LOVE it. Please wear it more like that! Red wavy hair is my DREAM hair, and mine is mouse brown and stick straight! I never knew and, Bonnie, it's BEAUTIFUL!

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  6. You deserve everything you get...in spades. I hope you suffer.

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  7. Hey Bonnie - I absolutely love your hair like this. It's wonderful. I hope the ease of going maintenance-free translated into your day, and today was easier.

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  8. Lovely! I know where you're coming from: my hair is naturally curly but turns into a total rats nest if I sleep on it, and if I brush it out it either frizzes or goes flat.

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  9. Try sleeping with it tied back or up in a bun, and take it down in the morning to see how it looks. You can also use sprays, I have one by Ouidad but it's kind of whatever, to spritz in the morning and scrunch on hair to kind of revive it and kill the frizz. Also, change where you part it if it looks wrong the next day and it might look better, like toss it around a little...just trying to come up with reasons to both wash it less and not have to blow dry

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  10. I actually LOVE your hair like this! Very soft, pretty waves and it showcases the color really well.

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  11. I have the same exact type of hair! It may not be from the perm, mine changed around 6th grade and I was told some girls get curly/frizzy/wavy hair after puberty. Hope you're having a better day now!

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  12. The hair looks awesome, Bonnie! Sorry about the bad day. It will get better. Hang in there!

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  13. Thanks for the info Carolyn! I had no idea puberty could cause that, but given the other things it causes, I guess I shouldn't be suprised! LOL!

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  14. Thanks! I agree about the color. My hair looks much better curly with this color than it did when my hair color was lighter.

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  15. Thanks for the advice! I'm going to give this a try!

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  16. My hair does the same thing! It's so frustrating how some days it dries curly and looks cute and then other days it's a frizzy mess. Also, that last picture of you is stunning!

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  17. If I brush mine it turns into a pure afro! LOL! The best thing I can do is leave it alone and let it do what it's going to do. My hair has a mind of its own! I'm going to try Gumby's suggestions.

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  18. Thanks girlie! So far today is a better day.

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  19. Thanks Lily! You sure know how to make a girl feel good about her frizzy hair!

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  20. Thanks! Yeah, flat ironing definitely requires a lot of patience. I'm sure I'll give it up one day, but that day hasn't come for me yet. I actually have calluses on my hand from flat ironing. Sad but true...

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  21. Thanks for the pep talk, Rebecca! Yeah, it is sad. Just when I think the worst has passed, something else happens to bring it all back again. It is definitely a process.

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  22. Yeah...perms don't permanently change your hair texture because hair grows...

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  23. Thanks for your compliment and compassion!

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  24. That makes sense. I just thought it must have had something to do with the perm because it was never straight after that. I guess puberty was to blame.

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  25. Yes, it is very frustrating, but I just try to be thankful for the hair I've got. Sometimes that's hard to do when I'm fighting with it in the mornings.

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