Top: Anthropologie Heartsease Habotai Blouse
Skirt: Anthropologie Drawing Parallels Skirt
Belt: Anthropologie Snake Bite Belt
Shoes: Pink Studio Bonnie Peep Toe Pumps
"You split like a cell and then cannot tell the line from its parallel." - Aimee Mann
I've got a lot of haters out there. I'm trying to figure out why. I don't think I'm a bitch. I'm generally pretty nice to people, in some cases probably too nice. I'm starting to think it may be because I don't have a parallel self that I bring out in public. I'm pretty much the same person no matter where I'm at. I don't do things or act a certain way to make people like me. I am who I am. I think most people have a public persona that makes them more likable. You can't really blame them for doing this. People are so judgmental. It just makes life a lot easier when you can be who everyone wants you to be. As for me, I choose to be myself. If that means people don't like me then so be it. I'd rather be hated for who I am then loved for who I'm not.
I think there must be a lot of lost people out there. People who can no longer tell their real self from their parallel self. The real person is just floating along in life while the parallel self has taken over. I was like that for a long time. In fact, I considered what I really wanted out of life to be the parallel universe. It took me awhile to realize that I was actually living in the parallel universe and that my real life was waiting for me on the other side. I made the decision to leave that world and all its comforts. Things are a lot more difficult over here in the real world, but nothing can beat the feeling of being true to yourself.
Aimee Mann - Lost in Space
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That is a REALLY gorgeous outfit! You have me wanting the Drawing Parallels skirt again, and I love all the colors -- and of course, your beautiful photography.
ReplyDeleteI can say for sure that I don't understand how anyone could hate you, and as always I care about you and hope you are doing well and are happy.
I think you should ignore the people who dislike you. You're great - and you should focus on the people who love spending time with you instead. Who wants to hang out with a Negative Nancy anyway?
ReplyDeleteOh how I can relate to the beginning of this post. I think that level of honesty and confidence in your persona IS off putting to so many, especially insecure, people. Keep your chin up. I'm having to constantly tell myself to do the same.
ReplyDeleteI love this Bonnie, so summery, so colourful! I'm sorry that you aren't getting along with everyone right now, hopefully things will pick up x
ReplyDeleteThis is a great reflective post- hang in there Bonnie. Even though you have haters just remember that we all do whether it's in real life or blog life or in our parallel life. Toxicity is everywhere.
ReplyDeleteYour outfit is gorgeous, I love everything about it!
I echo everyone else's sentiments when I say how much I love your outfit. That skirt really pops against your skin tone and hair color.
ReplyDeleteRe: negativity. The old saying, "birds of a feather flock together" still holds true today. Surround yourself with positive people and you can't help but be more positive. You will worry much less about all the negativity others spew.
I totally know what you mean about the "parallel self". It seems that everyone in my life is hell bent on me getting a teaching job even though I hated student teaching and don't ever want to teach.
ReplyDeleteMy mother told me to "be smart and tell people what they want to hear" - that I am looking for a teaching job but there's nothing out there...
It seems so much easier to lie but I just don't want to live that way. Here's to taking the high road!
Beautiful outfit!
ReplyDeleteAs just a side note - at least from the previous post, I didn't find any of the comments to be "haters" but people expressing some concern...
Bonnie!!! Beautiful outfit! I bought the same skirt in yellow... hubby and friends have recently been telling me that yellow is a great color on me.. I never thought that before but I think it is true now that I am wearing it a lot. Anyway - the green is beautiful on you. You wear green gorgeously - it is a great color on you.
ReplyDeleteAnd - on a personal note - I love the positive tone of this post. You are growing stronger every day. And your bravery is showing through - keep up the great work! Hugs and love! Cheers! xo
Bonnie You are Amazing, Strong, and a role model, being your authentic self is something we all should strive for. When you take care of Bonnie first you are a better person,mother, daughter, sister, and friend. Those who don't get it, or don't like it, know that it's THEIR ISSUE. Bonnie your children know that you love them. Be Happy love them and do the things that bring you joy!!!! I have always ADMIRED your honesty in your blog. Continue to be strong it will get BETTER,keep your mind focused on the things that make you smile........Be Well....Sabrina
ReplyDeleteI also appreciate the honesty of this post. I agree - there is no better feeling that being true to oneself! Stay confident and positive. Also, lovely outfit and pics.
ReplyDeleteBonnie Jo,
ReplyDeleteI sooo admire your courage, honesty, and strength to be you. On a more personal note you are on of the sweetest, kind hearted, and loyal people I have ever meet. Love the green skirt and cute floral skirt. You are handling things well . . . life well though you may not feel like it. Love you, FELICIA!!!
You look fantastic in this outfit and that shade of green is a great color on you.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right that a lot of people want to maintain a facade, especially when times are tough. Your honesty is brave.
I was reading an article in the Sunday Styles the other day that made me think of your situation. It was about how people today are reacting more strongly (and with harsher judgment) to the dissolution of a marriage as compared with the 70s (when it was viewed as an empowering step for so many women). It also discussed how the parents of young children are navigating through the peanut gallery and ensuring that many aspects of familial stability remain in tact (like having the kids stay in the home with parents who rotate in and out). It is worth reading in my opinion:
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/19/fashion/how-divorce-lost-its-cachet.html?_r=1&src=me&ref=style