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Belt: Anthropologie Looping Lanes Belt - Size M
Sandals: Steve Madden Seeri Sandals
Ring: The Limited

"That's why we share life for the happiness of being twice, half of a flawed kite." - Future Islands

I've finally gotten Internet service at the new house, so I should be posting on a more regular basis now. To those of you who I haven't offended with my bad behavior or horrible grammar, thanks for being patient with me during this move. After 2 grueling weeks of blood, sweat, and tears, the house is finally starting to look like a home, and life is beginning to return to normal.

Nothing has been easy with this house. I guess that's what you get when you buy an older home. You sacrifice modern conveniences for charm and character. First there was the stinky water and lack of hot water which turned out to be caused by the same problem: a missing part in the fuse box. Yes, you heard me right. We have fuses instead of breakers. We got some old school shit up in this house. The missing part powered the hot water heater, and no power to the hot water heater equaled cold, rotten egg smelling water. The good news was the missing part had a twin brother. The bad news was it powered the stove. So we had a choice to make, "Hot water or stove?" We chose hot water all day long. Luckily, after a week of this, we procured the missing part from a local electrician for only $15, and now we can have our hot water and bake a cake too!

Next, I discovered when trying to blow dry my hair the first morning that there were no outlets in the bathroom. I guess they didn't have a need for powered devices in the bathroom back in the 1940's. An extension cord which I ran into the hallway was my saving grace until yesterday when we had an electrician come by to update a few things. We thought it would be a simple job. Silly us, nothing is simple in this house. Everything we wanted him to do, he said, "Nope, can't do that." It's not like we were asking for cutting edge electronics here. Seriously, we couldn't get basic things like a light over the sink or a hood over the stove. Why are such simple tasks impossible in our house? Because we live in a freaking fort. The walls are a thin layer of plaster on top of concrete blocks. Every single wall in the house is like this. Great for Hurricanes, not so great for everything else. On the bright side, they were able to put an outlet in the bathroom, but it took them almost an hour just to bore through the concrete to do that. 

Despite all this, I love this house. The flaws really make it endearing. I suppose that's the way I wish people would see me. I'm not some big, bad, malicious bitch. I'm just a girl who makes mistakes and doesn't always respond to people in the appropriate way. I got flaws inside and out, and I'm not afraid to show them. Just look at the back fat and crazy tan lines in that last picture up there. The back fat is courtesy of old age and 3 babies, and the tan lines are the result of doing yard work on 2 different sunny days with 2 different shirts on. I'm not trying to be perfect. I'm just trying to be me, flaws and all.

Future Islands - The Happiness Of Being Twice



  1. Dear Fat_Lady,
    Didn't you get my message I left you in the last post? Grow up ad get a freaking life. What is your problem? Does putting others down while hiding behind your computer screen make you feel big, strong and powerful? We know deep inside you feel small and like a nobody but just a tip... Putting others down isn't how you rise to the top, you just sink lower and lower. Stop coming back and reading of you can't be nice. Gosh!!!!

  2. You look amazing! Are you wearing a strapless bra? I would love if I could find a good strapless bra that actually works!

  3. I think you look really pretty in all of these photos--that was my first thought when scrolling down--so I hope you don't think too much about a tiny amount of back fat! Big deal.

  4. Sounds like it has been an epic adventure, Bonnie! I am glad it is coming together! Post some pics!

    This dress is absolutely stunnng! I am trying to make peace with my strapless bra since it is summertime. Have you found a good one that stays up and isn't incredibly uncomfortable? Back fat happens to the best of us (and bras accentuate it sometimes!). You are one brave soldier for posting a picture of it! I admire your bravery!

  5. Sounds like an awesome house to me! I live in a very old apartment; there are outlets in the bathroom, but you have to turn on the light to use the outlet or else there is no power in those outlets. I hope there will be a house tour soon.

  6. Wow - that dress was made for you. And I think you're pretty close to perfect - that second last photo? GORGEOUS! We live in a 100+ years old house, so I hear you. And nope, we wouldn't trade it for a cookie-cutter, modern home! It's a test, but we love it.

  7. I'm with Kerri on this. What's your bra situation here? I love that dress on you, but would never have tried it on myself because I can't go braless and can't find a strapless one that works without actual pain.

  8. Thanks, Tracy! 100+ years old house? Wow! I'm sure you got stories that would put mine to shame.

  9. That's so cool. We have an outlet like that in the upstairs bathroom. I told Jerry I never want to switch out that fixture, because I love quirky stuff like that. However, when it comes to the bathroom I use everyday, I want my modern conveniences. ;-)

  10. I promise I'll post some pics next week when the kids are at their dad's. It's hard to keep the house clean enough for pics at the moment. LOL!

    I'm wearing a strapless bra I bought from Victoria's Secret a few years ago. It's my go-to strapless bra. I'll be devestated when it's worn out. Luckily, I don't wear it that often, so it's lasted me awhile. It's pretty comfortable for the first 6 hours or so, but after that I feel like taking it off and throwing it. I think that's about as good as it's going to get with a strapless.

    Yes, bras are the main cause of back fat, and my strapless one seems to be the worst for it. I'm trying to embrace my back fat. I think a little bit is very womenly. I noticed that Joan on Mad Men has it, and I think she looks pretty hot, so if it's good enough for Joan, it's good enough for me.

  11. Thanks! I don't see anything wrong with a little back fat. Pretty much every woman has it. Just as long as I don't have back boobs, I think it's ok. LOL!

  12. Thanks, Kerri! Yes, I'm wearing a strapless bra I purchased from Victoria's Secret a few years ago. I think it's the Body by Victoria version. It came with straps that you could configure in all different sorts of ways. Unfortunately, I lost the straps, but I've still managed to get some good use out of it.

  13. Hopefully my comment to Kerri will help you in your search. I can tell you that the thing that seems to make this one work better than most is the elastic band it has in the back. It really provides a lot of support without inducing pain. I'm not gonna lie, though. It does start to become uncomfortable after a few hours. I can get through a work day with it on, but by the end of the day, I'm ready to take it off.

  14. Bonnie, you are lovely! Love the dress and so thrilled about your new/old house, flaws and all.

  15. That dress is beautiful on you!!

  16. Thanks, Im going to have to seek out that bra! I actually like the Body by Victoria collection but havent tried that one. Do you find most of your bras at VS? I love that store!

  17. I was not sold on this dress based on the fitting room picture, but my gosh you were right- the belt I think is what really made the difference. beautiful dress, gorgeous pictures- and I love your hair.

    and I don't know what people are talking about with back fat? I see the dress is blousing where the belt is- perfectly normal. plus you are angled to the side- anyone with a larger chest and a bra can create 'back fat' depending on the angle you make with your position, because the bra doesn't move with the rest of the body.

    and no, I am not some raving adoring fan- I am an honest person and have always commented honestly.


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