The Affair

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Boots: Frye Melissa Button Boots
Necklace: Anthropologie Aurora Necklace
"Take me to church. I'll worship like a dog at the shrine of your lies. I'll tell you my sins and you can sharpen your knife. Offer me that deathless death. Good God, let me give you my life ." - Hozier

 Hi there! Don't worry, I'm not here to try and sell you some more clothes. I'm quickly becoming the fashion blogger equivalent of a door to door salesman. These kids are killing me, man, with their exorbitant Christmas demands. The dresses must be sacrificed!
So, did the title get your attention? I thought it might. The only time this old blog here got any substantial traffic was back when I shared the sordid details of my affair. Well, that and the time I said skinny bitches looked better in every single piece of clothing on earth except one particular dress. That dress, ironically, is one of my Christmas fund sacrifices and no one has bought it yet. Where my fat bitches at? There I go trying to sell you something again...  
The title refers to my favorite TV show at the moment - The Affair on Showtime. It's so good, and it's been bringing back some of the memories and feelings from my own little experience 4 years ago. It was the best and worst time in my life. A twisted little mixture of pleasure and pain that led me down the path I'm on today. Anyway, I love this show so much that I've been researching everything I can on it, and I have to say the comments on the show have been bringing me down.
I'm pretty sure I'm the only person in the world who wants the 2 people having the affair on the show to get together permanently. Obviously, I'm bringing my own personal shit into my opinions, but I'll be damned if everyone wants them to stay in their miserable marriages. Women are all about Cole, the husband of one of the cheaters. "Poor Cole. He's sooooo good looking. Why would anyone want to leave him?" Um, maybe because he's a fucking drug dealer, and he's kind of an asshole. It's so weird to me that the majority of people have more of a problem with adultery than actual illegal acts like drug dealing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying adultery is pretty. It's some ugly business for everyone involved, and I think the show does a good job of capturing that. It's just when 2 people fall in love that love knows no bounds, vows, or pieces of paper. It's a very personal thing and when outsiders brand all affairs with the dreaded Scarlet Letter because of their own moral and religious beliefs, it pisses me off. In fact, most people's priorities in general piss me off. Ever heard the expression, "Gag at a gnat and swallow a camel?" Yeah, that's most people I come in contact with on a daily basis.
I don't want to get all political and shit, but what the hell? I've already pissed off fat people and religious people at this point and that's most of America right? I'm just hearing about this Eric Garner incident for the first time today. Eric Garner is a man that died of a heart attack after being put in a choke hold by a police officer. The whole incident was caught on camera, and the footage was very compelling. Apparently, Mr. Garner was in trouble for selling loose cigarettes. He was understandably upset with the cops for having to deal with such bullshit charges and was voicing his concerns in a non-violent manner. Suddenly, about 6 cops tackle Mr. Garner and one puts him in a choke hold. Granted, Mr. Garner was a big man, but the use of force by the cops is clearly excessive given the situation. Mr. Garner can chillingly be heard saying, "I can't breathe," several times before he loses consciousness. The cop who applied the choke hold to Mr. Garner was cleared of all potential charges today.
Why am I just hearing about this now? Why hasn't this been all over the news rather than the Michael Brown case? I mean, the one thing that was actually needed to make a case in the Michael Brown fiasco was a video camera, and we have that in this case. In my opinion, the Michael Brown case was handled fairly. With no video footage, the only evidence in the Michael Brown case was eye witness statements, the cop's statement, and physical evidence which, in my opinion, all supported the cop's version of events. The Eric Garner case is very different, though. I can't imagine anyone could watch that video and not think the cop deserved some kind of charges to be brought against him. It's ridiculous.
I guess what I'm trying to get at with all this is that is seems people put so much importance on the wrong things. I do it myself to a certain degree. I've been known to eat Cheerios for a week so I can buy a dress I really want. What the hell is wrong with us? Why do we do this? I mean, why did so many strangers all over the world care so much about my affair? I was called all sorts of nasty names and even had someone threaten to tell my employer. Because nothing says "I'm morally superior to you" like causing a complete stranger to lose their job so they can't provide for the children that they should have stayed in their miserable marriage for. Priorities, people, we need to get some. conquers all. Noah and Allison 4-ever! That is all.    



  1. We share alot of the same views and life experiences Bonnie. I to wondered today why this was the first time I had heard of the Eric Garner case. The video is very hard to watch and sad. As far as Mike Brown..WTF ! The policeman did his job and was in danger. The evidence is there. I could say more but should not I suppose.

  2. Completely different subject then my first comment, but when the heck did they open an Anthropologie in Raleigh? I live a few minutes outside Raleigh and noticed it when we went to the movies a couple weeks ago at North Hills.

  3. It's probably been a year ago now. LOL! I wrote about the new store a few months ago. Someone wasn't paying attention... ;-)

  4. Apparently! This is what 40 does to you LOL. I completely stopped walking and stared in disbelief.

  5. Looking gorgeous. More outfit posts please please please!

  6. truly need the Lord and a grace loving church in your life and especially in your children's life. Not every one or every church is bad!!!!!! The Lord is the only person that can save you from the craziness of this world. Everyone is a sinner, but some of us are saved by God's Wonderful Grace. I pray that you will think about this and become active in a good fellowship.


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