Sandals and Necklace: Urban Outfitters
"It's a long road to wisdom. It's a short one to being ignored." - The Lumineers
I often hear people refer to themselves and others like them as being "mature." They take great pride in their belief that they've got their head on straight and life all figured out. They also seem to take great pleasure in pointing out the shortfalls of others and even laying down punishment when others fall short of their expectations. I find it ironic that most of the time these same people have had very few life experiences. They've rarely been tested in life and have usually been sheltered and surrounded by people who stroke their egos, leaving them incapable of having any empathy at all.
There is a saying that happiness is a journey, not a destination. Well, the same can be said for maturity. I am of the opinion that one is never done maturing. At 36 years of age, I consider myself as being halfway there on the maturity spectrum. Maturity is about constantly changing and not staying fixed in one point of view. Maturity is about questioning our beliefs and not declaring our word as an absolute truth that can never be shaken. Most importantly, though, maturity is about forgiveness, because only a mature mind has the ability to see things from a point of view other than its own.
“For I am—or I was—one of those people who pride themselves on their willpower, on their ability to make a decision and carry it through. This virtue, like most virtues, is ambiguity itself. People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their decisions are not really decisions at all—a real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be named—but elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not."
- James Baldwin
I often hear people refer to themselves and others like them as being "mature." They take great pride in their belief that they've got their head on straight and life all figured out. They also seem to take great pleasure in pointing out the shortfalls of others and even laying down punishment when others fall short of their expectations. I find it ironic that most of the time these same people have had very few life experiences. They've rarely been tested in life and have usually been sheltered and surrounded by people who stroke their egos, leaving them incapable of having any empathy at all.
There is a saying that happiness is a journey, not a destination. Well, the same can be said for maturity. I am of the opinion that one is never done maturing. At 36 years of age, I consider myself as being halfway there on the maturity spectrum. Maturity is about constantly changing and not staying fixed in one point of view. Maturity is about questioning our beliefs and not declaring our word as an absolute truth that can never be shaken. Most importantly, though, maturity is about forgiveness, because only a mature mind has the ability to see things from a point of view other than its own.
“For I am—or I was—one of those people who pride themselves on their willpower, on their ability to make a decision and carry it through. This virtue, like most virtues, is ambiguity itself. People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their decisions are not really decisions at all—a real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be named—but elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not."
- James Baldwin
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Ok.First things first: You are styled to perfection. LOVE the necklace being a nod to the pattern in the skirt.Colors are great on you.About maturity: I AGREE WITH YOU! I know a lot of strong-willed people that really needed to mature. Their decisions are signs of their own self-deception. Bravo - I say - to your post. xoxo
ReplyDeleteIsn't that the truth? I love your necklace. It looks great with that outfit. I heard your "Rock me momma" song when I was at the dentist today. It's everywhere :)
ReplyDeleteThat color of tee is absolutely perfect for your skin and hair! Really like that pattern on the skirt, too!
ReplyDeleteMaturity is a work in progress. If you think you're there, that means you've stopped growing as a person, and I hope to God that never happens to me!
Wedges would be amazing with this!! Do you ever wear them? You look pretty!
ReplyDeletewhat a great necklace and i love the colors against beautiful background! who cares about maturity, just be yourself.
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