Warmth and Respite

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Boots: Steve Madden Candence Boots - Size 8.5
Necklace Tree and Kimble

Love is a dress that you made long
To hide your knees.
Love to say this to your face
I'll love you only.
For your days and excitement,
What will you keep for to wear?
Someday drawing you different
May I be weaved in your hair?

Love and some verses you hear
Say what you can say.
Love to say this in your ear,
"I'll love you that way."
From your changing contentments,
What will you choose for to share?
Some day drawing you different,
May I be weaved in your hair?
- Iron and Wine 

This song has been coming up on my Ipod a lot lately. It's almost like its haunting me. I took some time today to really dig into the lyrics, and I was intrigued by what I discovered.

I see an insecure woman who is loved by a man, the narrator of the song. She doubts herself because, for the first time in her life, she is making her own decisions. This doubt causes her to be in a constant state of change. She's trying to find herself, her identity. There are moments of complete clarity in the midst of confusion, moments when she knows and loves herself and doesn't give a damn what other people think. However, she keeps slipping back into a more familiar state of mind. One that tells her she is not good enough, that she needs to change into what everyone else wants her to be.

The one constant in her life is this man that loves her. He's an artist, and he sees the world much differently than she does. He learned a long time ago to be secure with himself, but he understands her struggles and loves her any way she chooses to be. He wants to be a part of her life as she goes through these changes. He wants to be her warmth and respite in a cold world, always loving and supporting her. In case you haven't figured it out, the woman is me and the man is Jerry.

I was stuck by how much I love this man as I was pulling out of the driveway today. It had started to rain lightly and my little girl emerged from our apartment with her new umbrella. Jerry followed behind her with his camera. She hopped onto a old tree stump in the front yard and posed as he snapped pictures of her. I watched them contently as I pulled away, and my heart was warm with love.

Iron and Wine - Love and Some Verses



  1. Is this your new hair color? If so, I like it.
    I have always highlighted my hair but now I have far too many grey hairs and need to color my entire head. But I don't want to do that plus highlights because it will be too expensive. What happens when you have highlights with 1-inch roots showing (yikes!!) and then you color your entire head with one color? Won't the highlights and roots still look funny? I don't know how to make the transition to coloring the whole head with 1 color when I have highlights in my hair.

  2. What a sweet photo of your daughter! That is one to be framed on the wall!

  3. You don't need to jettison your whole life and your whole family to "be who you want to be." Many people have felt this way and spent months, even years working with their spouse through counseling to work things out. It's the adult thing to do. You don't jettison a life you've built for many years in a desire to cast everything aside and begin anew.

  4. "to hide your knees"? Never, ever! :o)

    Gorgeous photos, outfit, post. Loved this one. Two thumbs way, way up.

  5. Gorgeous series of photos and what a gorgeous little girl you have!
    We're in the middle of summer here (this whole week is forecast for over 100 degrees - yuck!), but on our recent summer vacation, my daughter was desperate to buy a little pink umbrella to take out in the rain (which is 6 months away). I've added it to her birthday list!

  6. Beautiful!! Your eyes match your sweater :)

  7. Your outfit is cozy chic perfection. I love this photo shoot... especially the first pic & the one of your cutie-pie daughter! (:

  8. Adorable picture of your little girl, Bonnie! Definitely a framer!
    I just love that sweatshirt dress. I think I'm going to have to get one. I thought they were gone until I clicked on your link up there to find they are backordered.

  9. Welcome back doctor! You've been on here quite a lot the past couple of days. I have a diagnosis of my own to make: obsessive-compulsive disorder. You obsessively check this blog and compulsively leave judgemental comments. That'll be 5 cent please. ;-)

  10. Thanks, Catherine!
    Oh, you should totally get one, especially now that it's on sale. I love mine!

  11. Thanks, Anna!
    Wow! Wish I could take some of that heat from you. It's cold here.
    My little girl loves her umbrella. She takes it with her everywhere now, even when it's not raining. She says it keeps her warm. She walked out of dance with it a couple of nights ago. She looked really cute walking around with an open umbrella on a clear, starry night. She was delighted when it finally rained, so she could go outside and actually uput her umbrella to use!

  12. LOL! Yeah, my knees are one of the few things I don't want to hide.

    Yay! Glad you enjoyed it!

  13. Thanks! I love having a photographer as a boyfriend! My project this week is to print and frame some pictures. This one is going to be one of them.

  14. No, this was the last day I had my old color.

    The color I have now was done over highlights plus grey roots, and it is all one color, so I wouldn't worry about it looking funny. You should be fine to make the transition to full color even with your highlight and root situation.

  15. ChrisHansensayshaveaseatJanuary 23, 2012 at 11:56 AM

    i would flip the eff out if some creepy old dude took a picture of my kid and let his mistress post in on the internet

  16. I LOVE that sweater. Looks so cozy and warm. I ordered the same belt, but it's on backorder until February 20th! I can't wait for it to arrive because it seems like it will fit with so many items in my wardrobe. Your little girl is darling. I love her polka dot boots :)

  17. Just did! You are a bad, bad influence, Bonnie! :)-

  18. I guess it's easier to bash readers than to look inside and see that they may have something accurate to say about your situation.

  19. How accurate can you be though? As readers we only know the pieces of Bonnie's life that she chooses to share. Any gaps we fill in based on our own experiences. We all see situations based on the filter we develop based on our own experiences, fears, hopes, etc. So in judging her situation, without having all the details, you're really telling us more about yourself than being accurate about her. I can't help but wonder why this stirs up so much emotion in you.

  20. I think the real concern is that Bonnie isn't looking at the hard questions. It's not about judgment, it's about acting as an adult. She does not want to listen to any comments other than those that are about her hair color or making her feel better.

    I just think her whole situation is sad, and hope she gains some insight into it (not into herself, she's gained enough of that - but about the others whose lives she has affected.)

    I've never been in her situation but I know that if I were , my main concern would be for others affected rather than myself. That is what concerns me about the situation.

  21. Well this is a fashion blog, so really the comments should be about the fashion and related content (hair, etc). I don't think the fact that she has had the courage to share certain aspects of her personal life makes this an open forum to dissect her every decision. How do you know that she hasn't looked at the real questions or about the people who have been impacted by the situation? How do you know that she didn't do a whole lot of thinking and processing about the situation and conclude that this is the best decision? You are making a lot of assumptions based on the fact that the outcome is not what you want to see. The best mother is a happy mother. The best partner is a happy partner. I am a strong advocate of couples counseling, but it isn't going to fix every situation. There are a lot of people in the world wrestling with similar issues...maybe it's time for you to move on to dissecting one of their situations. You've spent more than enough time doing it here.

  22. I think your blog is beautiful. I haven't been a long term reader, I just happened upon it two days ago, and I ended up getting sucked in- even listening to your music as I read along. I accidentally typed some random letters into my search on Facebook tonight, hit enter, and opened to your page again. So, I read...Once again. And I appreciate how genuine you are about your life. Readers are not just following your fashion taste, they are following your story as a woman, wife, and mother- all the good and the bad. I'm eighteen with a 100,000 moments that I still have yet to experience, but I can comprehend some sort of lesson in every post where you share your thoughts. I really appreciate all of the depth and work that you put into this blog.


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