tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post5336076647585519840..comments2023-09-08T05:50:02.938-04:00Comments on Small Town Fashionista: The GatheringBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06570402319337666763noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-31452458385988867342011-06-08T00:15:13.141-04:002011-06-08T00:15:13.141-04:00You folks can say what you want about judgement et...You folks can say what you want about judgement etc., I really don't care about your opinion. Fact is that this is a woman crying out for help, and she needs encouragement to go get that assistance. Patting someone on the back while they fall into a destructive cycle of panic and anxiety is only enabling. It is clear from her posts that she not only has significant rifts with her immediate family, but she is falling into a serious cycle of panic and anxiety, which can easily lead to depression. It is only kind to recognize this fact and encourage someone to seek actual treatment. Anyone who thinks your pat on the back is going to fix these kinds of problems clearly have exactly zero experience dealing with them, either from a personal OR clinical standpoint. Until you have seen and experienced the reality and pain of these conditions, it's very hard to see why professional help is necessary, but it absolutely is. And until you have experienced a panic attack, you honestly have no concept as to what terror really is... and until you have lived in fear of having those panic attacks, you can't really comment on whether or not it is "judgmental" to tell someone to seek professional help. This is someone with serious anxiety, going through an extremely stressful period of their life, and now has that compounded by losing their strongest support structure, and is complaining of panic and anxiety. To say that she should NOT seek professional assistance is ignorant and unkind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-39466261017869317582011-06-06T22:17:54.322-04:002011-06-06T22:17:54.322-04:00Uhhhhh......Anyone can claim to be in "medica...Uhhhhh......Anyone can claim to be in "medical school".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-61933634133417949242011-06-06T21:39:38.977-04:002011-06-06T21:39:38.977-04:00I second Anon at 5:42 - any true professional woul...I second Anon at 5:42 - any true professional would never have the gall to diagnose based on a bunch of fashion posts with some personal tidbits thrown in. Run along, med student, and practice on those who have actually requested your input.Tracynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-35290059657264208512011-06-06T20:42:46.176-04:002011-06-06T20:42:46.176-04:00OMG..."I'm in medical school, therefore I...OMG..."I'm in medical school, therefore I'm a professional doctor and I have the right to analyze your behavior" Shut up stupid.<br /><br />Bonnie has every right to write about whatever she wants and you have every right to go read something else. JudgeMENTAL piece of work...<br /><br />Anyway Bonnie, we hope everything's ok with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-7425377115572502012011-06-06T18:23:19.660-04:002011-06-06T18:23:19.660-04:00You should really think long and hard about the fa...You should really think long and hard about the fact that the ones who have known you longest are clearly shunning your behavior. For one moment, consider not how what they are doing affects you, but consider what they are doing for your children. Consider that your parents and sister feel it is more important to maintain strong relationships with your children instead of focusing on whether or not your feelings may be hurt.<br /><br />I have generalized anxiety disorder. I have been through bouts of therapy and medication. I am infinitely more happy and stable as a result. It is time for you to get professional help. Feeling sorry for yourself and looking for sympathy on the internet will not help you truly move forward and change. Admitting you need help is the hardest step; once you find a good therapist, you will look forward to those appointments, and look forward to the person you are becoming as a result of your progress.<br /><br />Also- as someone in medical school, it is abundantly clear from the entirety of your blog that you have psychological issues that are screaming for attention. I won't sit here and pretend to specifically diagnose you from your words over the computer, but it is enough to say that you owe it to yourself and especially to your children to address these issues in a meaningful way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-14041887058597371792011-06-06T16:27:42.817-04:002011-06-06T16:27:42.817-04:00send up a smoke signal! let us know how you are!send up a smoke signal! let us know how you are!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-43749591203048852022011-06-06T12:28:35.604-04:002011-06-06T12:28:35.604-04:00Hi Bonnie,
I felt so sad reading your entry.
I...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br />I felt so sad reading your entry. <br /><br />I too am going thru panic/anxiety attacks and currently out of work.<br /><br />I hope you're planning to/already speaking to a therapist. I have just started, and hopefully getting out all your emotions and feelings will help.<br /><br />Stay strong.<br /><br />TaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-4443310937336219612011-06-05T16:20:55.657-04:002011-06-05T16:20:55.657-04:00It's been a week since your last post???I hope...It's been a week since your last post???I hope you are ok. Please post just to let us know you are well<br />NancyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-86662409964626768902011-06-05T09:37:47.574-04:002011-06-05T09:37:47.574-04:00This blog has been a constant expression of depres...This blog has been a constant expression of depression and unhappiness since even before this split, and pretty continuously thereafter too. Unhappiness about pretty much everything, jobs, relationships, life. I think it's time to admit that it's time for professional help.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-28823242773263337652011-06-04T07:14:25.314-04:002011-06-04T07:14:25.314-04:00Hi Bonnie,
I've never posted on your blog befo...Hi Bonnie,<br />I've never posted on your blog before but I do pop in to read now and again and am hopig you are ok....sending good thoughts your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-23481996563287165542011-06-04T05:01:42.087-04:002011-06-04T05:01:42.087-04:00Bonnie, are you doing all right? I am getting litt...Bonnie, are you doing all right? I am getting little worried about you.Ambernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-87492494375776023222011-06-03T16:45:31.393-04:002011-06-03T16:45:31.393-04:00Bonnie:
Are you doing all right? Do check in when...Bonnie:<br /><br />Are you doing all right? Do check in when you get a minute. We all miss you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-65216267999592330992011-06-01T17:50:53.232-04:002011-06-01T17:50:53.232-04:00Hang in there! This is quite a change for all of ...Hang in there! This is quite a change for all of you. Of course it would not all be easy. Have faith in yourself that you all will adjust, including you. There are some bitter realities to all of this, unfortunately. Affairs, separation, divorce, splitting time with the kids...it is hard. Sounds like your husband is being amicable, which helps. It also sounds like your mom is coming around. That is a positive!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-5290261280939687702011-06-01T15:48:50.952-04:002011-06-01T15:48:50.952-04:00Bonnie-
Are you okay? I hope today is a good day a...Bonnie-<br />Are you okay? I hope today is a good day and that you are feeling alot better.<br />I miss your pretty pictures.<br />Check in, and let us know that you are alright.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-25567971773205296372011-05-31T22:33:11.969-04:002011-05-31T22:33:11.969-04:00You are absolutely not a weak person, Bonnie. Weak...You are absolutely not a weak person, Bonnie. Weak people don't change their lives when they know it's time. I sympathize with the loneliness you're feeling, and I empathize with the anxiety rearing its head. Just remember that you will get through it, and the other side will be different, but worthwhile.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10873481745325710206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-64348945213122619692011-05-31T12:08:31.288-04:002011-05-31T12:08:31.288-04:00Sending many positive thoughts your way.Sending many positive thoughts your way.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213112949583497429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-19465036506218134212011-05-31T05:56:37.034-04:002011-05-31T05:56:37.034-04:00Hey Bonnie, I'm sorry to hear you had a rough ...Hey Bonnie, I'm sorry to hear you had a rough weekend. I agree with these ladies above - you will get through this, and we're all thinking of you. Wishing you hopscotch days :o) xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-37670015601696905072011-05-31T04:47:42.549-04:002011-05-31T04:47:42.549-04:00Feeling your loneliness...what your doing is very ...Feeling your loneliness...what your doing is very brave, It takes alot of guts to do what you feel is right and to follow your heart. it will be tough but it will get easier and you will know that you have done the right thing. keep strong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-62162497779414258592011-05-30T21:02:00.332-04:002011-05-30T21:02:00.332-04:00You're always capable of more than you think y...You're always capable of more than you think you are. I can't tell you how many times I've thought about what I've lived through and said "How was I able to live that way for so long?" Keep going.<br /><br />Listen to the wise words of strong women from the past "A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water." <br />Eleanor RooseveltKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01826530279888938184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-68582682937595745932011-05-30T19:14:32.477-04:002011-05-30T19:14:32.477-04:00Tomorrow will be a better day. Yesterday I saw my ...Tomorrow will be a better day. Yesterday I saw my mom and sis (dad and BIL, too) and today has been a tough day for me. I miss them so much. It is distance that keeps us from each other. Sometimes I wonder what in the heck we were thinking when we decided to move away from our "support team". But then they all moved, too, so I know it was meant to be - it took courage to do what we knew was right. Just know I am feeling for you and praying for peace for you, too. Big Hugs! xoxoSherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12259439449860582075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-62456631068318514842011-05-30T18:55:17.456-04:002011-05-30T18:55:17.456-04:00Hi Bonnie,
I wasn`t going to comment about your l...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br />I wasn`t going to comment about your life and changes in it - because who we are to judge you!<br /><br /><br />But today I must say this:<br /><br />Hang on. <br />There will be always better and worse days.<br />I suppose that is hard situation for all your family, even for your parents. And they sometimes can be very hurtful, but I think that it is their way to endure it, and I`m sure that in deep of they harts they still love you. Things just needs time.<br />So stay strong :) <br /><br />And tomorrow will be a better day, must be.Monika-icoulddothis.bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07411219986036167765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-37763427270380976572011-05-30T18:15:29.863-04:002011-05-30T18:15:29.863-04:00Your "new" life is still pretty new, so ...Your "new" life is still pretty new, so be patient with yourself. You're also probably learning a lot about who you are, what you want, what's important to you now and for the future. I imagine it is painful to see "your" family socializing with your husband, but remember that they are probably there to see the kids. I do think they should be more supportive of you (regardless of whether or not they agree with you), but it may just take some time. Time does heal. My mother passed away 5 years ago and although I still miss her, it doesn't hurt as badly now.<br /><br />I know that, for me, being married and having kids is not only about my individual relationships with my husband and 3 children but also about a lifestyle (just as you're describing). I rely on that lifestyle, I think, as much as I rely on them individually. I do need the "community" of family the dinners together, etc. So in addition to grieving the loss of your marriage, perhaps you are grieving the loss of that lifestyle. You're still building your new life, and it will just take time.St Germainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15813079453486483336noreply@blogger.com