tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post3510244905182206247..comments2023-09-08T05:50:02.938-04:00Comments on Small Town Fashionista: Honeysuckle DreamsBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06570402319337666763noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-59767812463207380632011-05-07T22:46:54.247-04:002011-05-07T22:46:54.247-04:00Since you have three young children I'm assumi...Since you have three young children I'm assuming you left them with your husband when you moved out of your home. That is very sad for all of them, and don't fool yourself that they will understand because "Mommy deserves to be happy." All they are going to think about is that Mommy wasn't happy being their Mommy. Yes, I am judging you, and that is what happens when you immaturely post pictures of yourself pretending to be an Anthropologie model looking very happy with yourself while writing about leaving your family. Take others' advice and stop playing dress up while your family is being torn apart. If not for your children then at least for appearances sake.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-25957898375887694122011-05-07T21:32:01.330-04:002011-05-07T21:32:01.330-04:00Good luck to you. I've never been married but...Good luck to you. I've never been married but ended an 8 year relationship when I was 29... it was the best thing in my life. I loved being single and having my own place. Now I am 34 and with a new partner in a new city. <br /><br />Also, get thee to a thrift store! You can get the anthro style you love for pennies from thrift stores and estate sales, especially in a rural area like you live (I live in Seattle and travel to the rural parts of the state to thrift). You don't need walmart plastic when you could be eating of off estate china for the same price. :-) Have fun!Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14299907885608959637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-9670182032684242092011-05-06T09:44:48.865-04:002011-05-06T09:44:48.865-04:00Hi Bonnie,
I am a quiet reader of your blog and ...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br /> I am a quiet reader of your blog and I must say good for you for doing what is best for you and your kids, being unhappy in a marriage isnt good for your kids or you! I wish you all the best in your new life and I praise your strenght and guts for following your heart. Your experience will surely help other women in the same situation. You are a very beautiful lady and seem very down to earth. It is better to be happy and divorced then unhappy and married. Again I really admire you for your courage to start over, it gives other women who are in similar situations hope.MissyKaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09391440535868525519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-49407633051174825862011-05-06T04:15:38.727-04:002011-05-06T04:15:38.727-04:00They are not my children and it's certainly no...They are not my children and it's certainly not for me to say, but please don't tell us you left your children and moved out. Why would you not stay with them? They didn't do anything, and they deserve more than a part-time mother who now lives in an apartment. I hope they moved with you.<br /><br />My husband's mother moved out to an apartment years ago and left her children, seeing them as an occasional mom instead of living with them, and every time I have ever seen this happen, the result isn't good. Please be aware.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-63481396312886093692011-05-04T22:03:52.831-04:002011-05-04T22:03:52.831-04:00Hi Bonnie,
Just have to tell you that my mother s...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br />Just have to tell you that my mother stayed in a miserable marriage for more than 20 years because she didn't "believe in divorce" but finally ended it. <br /><br />I don't blame her or judge her - she deserved to be happy and honestly it was the best thing for my sister and I. Take care of your heart and everything else will fall into place.<br /><br />-KateAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-87389521683329349662011-05-04T18:49:10.439-04:002011-05-04T18:49:10.439-04:00An an adult daughter with a mother who for a varie...An an adult daughter with a mother who for a variety of reasons (not all to do with my dad)is very often very unhappy - I can say there is nothing that makes me feel as helpless and unhappy and desperate as my mother's unhappiness - and that the life she has created for herself seems to leave her with few avenues to craft a life better suited that would make her happy. No, I didn't notice this when I was ten, or fifteen - but it breaks my heart every week today. <br /><br />You children aren't going to stop caring about you when you are forty and they are grown - and if the woman you are at forty is unhappy and disapointed with your life - it will be a burden to them. Crafting a life that suits you is a positive thing for the people who love you, your children included.<br /><br />Best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-27538148156455611182011-05-04T06:39:53.154-04:002011-05-04T06:39:53.154-04:00HI Bonnie - you already know you have my support, ...HI Bonnie - you already know you have my support, but I just wanted to put it out there publicly. The best thing my parents ever did for me and my brothers was to separate - rather than growing up in an unhappy household, we watched them make tough decisions that were the best thing for all of us. They made it possible for us to live happy lives, with happy parents. They just weren't happy together. I'm grateful for their responsible choices, tough as they must have been.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-34977366128132124432011-05-04T06:25:57.609-04:002011-05-04T06:25:57.609-04:00Hi Bonnie
I've been away for a while and misse...Hi Bonnie<br />I've been away for a while and missed all of this, the posts leading up to and including this one. Just catching up now. Best of luck to you in this new chapter in your life. <br />Louise xWhat Lou Wore 365https://www.blogger.com/profile/17459151735002802694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-68901474462448130202011-05-03T20:07:37.887-04:002011-05-03T20:07:37.887-04:00It is worth it to talk about hard things online. ...It is worth it to talk about hard things online. You never know who might be struggling with similar issues.Thirteenlbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07592274396533712932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-82639646753257544182011-05-03T18:57:59.048-04:002011-05-03T18:57:59.048-04:00Bonnie, I am sitting here with my mouth open over ...Bonnie, I am sitting here with my mouth open over some of the reader comments! Cannot understand how ANYONE can be so mean-spirited and judgmental about a situation that is NOBODY'S BUSINESS but yours. Crazy!<br /><br />I think everyone is entitled to be happy in life and I'm sure you did a lot of soul searching to make what you feel is the best decision for YOU.<br /><br />Yes, divorce is tough on all involved, but it's also horrible growing up with parents constantly fighting and at each others throats. <br /><br />I say GOOD FOR YOU in making a positive change in your life.Chrissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244610403207675253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-70339000400713638342011-05-03T14:58:34.592-04:002011-05-03T14:58:34.592-04:00I read all the comments and don't see a malici...I read all the comments and don't see a malicious tone in any, except for the superfluous "You lost a follower" comment. (Why even bother to post after un-following?) I'm here for the pretty pics, so I have no commentary on your personal decision, except to say, I hope you find a support system to build a healthy future. Maybe your blog will play some role in that. Also, you never know what opportunities are ahead. I used to read a column Single in the Suburbs that I thoroughly enjoyed; she was in a similar situation. Perhaps, you could embark on a similar writing endeavor, or even write a book about your experience. All things can work together for your good and growth.Giginoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-85780416101748405502011-05-03T13:18:51.899-04:002011-05-03T13:18:51.899-04:00Best of luck to you! As a mom and a wife, I'm ...Best of luck to you! As a mom and a wife, I'm sure your decision was difficult, but hopefully it is for the best and will result in more happiness for you, your children, and your husband. Kudos for being so candid about a touchy subject that is sure to get its fair share of negative comments.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12229594002501925172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-38363474590236125432011-05-03T10:01:12.676-04:002011-05-03T10:01:12.676-04:00Wow, I have been reading some of the comments, and...Wow, I have been reading some of the comments, and people are harsh and rude, not to mention assuming.<br /><br />I support you in your decision. No one can know what you are going thru and what you need to do to make yourself happy other than you. I applaud you for such a difficult decision. I know people who prefer to live in unhappy marriage rather than do something about it, which society does not accept very well other than when it happens with celebrities. <br />When celebrities get divorced its no big deal, but when common people do, then its the worst thing to happen.<br /><br />Well it is good to have two happy parents for kids but you know what, its better to have one happy parent rather than two unhappy parents.<br /><br />Good Luck!!!! Wish you all the happieness in life. You can count on me on support.<br />Enjoy the new found freedom. And ignore some of the sick comments people have posted. <br /><br />RachelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-58333636364457692572011-05-03T09:59:39.132-04:002011-05-03T09:59:39.132-04:00Bonnie,
I read your blog and look at your picture...Bonnie,<br /><br />I read your blog and look at your pictures daily. In the beginning I was as avid reader, mostly because our body types are similar and I loved to be able to see things on you to get a better idea of how they would look on me! But, as I became a more loyal and consistent follower I found that that a lot of your posts had such negative undertones to them. Truthfully they became depressing to read. I am hopeful that thru your transition you begin to find some happiness and that your blog posts start to have a more positive spin on them. I don’t mean this harsh at all but wanted to let you know my perspective on things. <br /><br />As far as leaving your husband, I am with a lot of other ladies on this one. It is better to have to happy parents apart then to have parents together that are miserable. I am a firm believer in not staying together for the kids. Although the beginning might be harder, the long term result will be much better for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-14630256598776472732011-05-03T00:19:45.744-04:002011-05-03T00:19:45.744-04:00I am glad you are doing what it best for you Bonni...I am glad you are doing what it best for you Bonnie. My parents stayed together for far too long when they should have went separate ways, and from my own experience, even if your children do have difficulties with the change, when they get older, there is a great chance they will look back and understand. I know I had a huge range of emotions when I was going through this in my family, but I understood later on. Of course no one knows for sure, but you deserve to be happy! <br /><br />I smiled over your experience of shopping for new dishes. I am currently starting to get together things for my new place (in a couple of months) and it is great putting things together and finding awesome deals :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15706203731451969384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-36720189468607544632011-05-03T00:09:33.535-04:002011-05-03T00:09:33.535-04:00Bonnie...
As a fellow mom (and product of divorced...Bonnie...<br />As a fellow mom (and product of divorced parents) I'm sure it tore you apart to make your decision. I hope you and your husband continue to put your children at the forefront of your thoughts and decisions. Kids are certainly wonderful at adapting and whatever they go through will most likely make them stronger people in the end. Just be sure to give them lots of hugs and kisses and let them know, whenever you can, that your love (and your husbands love) for them has not changed. I hope you can shrug off those who pass judgement over you-for they have no right.<br />Best of luck to you (and you little ones)...KristenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-18431142666839604902011-05-02T23:48:39.834-04:002011-05-02T23:48:39.834-04:00Keep blogging Bonnie. Granted, I'm 27 and not ...Keep blogging Bonnie. Granted, I'm 27 and not married (yet) but I think it's really inspirational that you're sharing your problems. A lot of people go through with this and feel they are alone -- it's nice that you are being brave and accepting your decision and its ramifications openly. A lot of people have a problem with this level of honesty.<br /><br />Marriage is important. It is sacred. But it's not supposed to be a bondage into misery for the rest of your adult life.Erinhttp://www.themaddestmuse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-36084021011669039982011-05-02T23:20:56.027-04:002011-05-02T23:20:56.027-04:00Hey! I'm another person who grew up with divor...Hey! I'm another person who grew up with divorced parents, but I want to say that it's really not all that bad. I was 3, STILL remember my parents screaming at each other, and now they are both much happier and remarried to people I like. I spent my whole childhood going one week at my mom's, one week at my dad's--frankly I thought it was just kind of normal, lol So don't let anyone tell you getting a divorce will scar your kids or make them unhappy forever and ever, because it's just not true. <br /><br />Fun fact: They tell me that when they told me and my half- brother and sister they were getting a divorce, that I cried a little, then went outside and played. It'll be alright.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-89884913207418564522011-05-02T23:07:01.532-04:002011-05-02T23:07:01.532-04:00I wrote a nice and long comment but blogger ate it...I wrote a nice and long comment but blogger ate it. The gist of it was that I wanted to wish you the best of luck! Thank you for being so candid and I hope one day you'll look at this experience and know that it happened for a good reason. :)Cindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848440319205474182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-58704278207463637782011-05-02T23:04:33.973-04:002011-05-02T23:04:33.973-04:00I'm so sorry that you're going through thi...I'm so sorry that you're going through this. No matter the situation or who initiated it, it's never easy. Nobody has the right to judge you because nobody else knows what's going on the way that you do. As for continuing to blog during this period of intense transition, it's something stable during an unstable personal time. Do what you need to do and know that you're in our thoughts even if we've never met you. xxJulie Rose Sewshttp://julierosesews.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-60948125451693738312011-05-02T22:51:00.935-04:002011-05-02T22:51:00.935-04:00I thought this is what was going on (I noticed you...I thought this is what was going on (I noticed you hadn't been wearing your wedding ring). <br /><br />You sound a LOT happier. If this is what needed to happen for you to find your happiness, than I think it's for the best. <br /><br />I hope things continue getting better and better for you! <br /><br />Sending big hugs and happy thoughts your way, from 3000 miles away!Tracy Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01513547367190342780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-71802429643611448532011-05-02T22:36:58.072-04:002011-05-02T22:36:58.072-04:00Hi Bonnie:
I have never commented, but read your ...Hi Bonnie:<br /><br />I have never commented, but read your blog everyday. You deserve to be happy in whatever capacity that may be. I will continue to read your blog and root for you and your happiness. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-83772693011174871672011-05-02T22:35:31.530-04:002011-05-02T22:35:31.530-04:00Good luck, Bonnie- no one knows better than you wh...Good luck, Bonnie- no one knows better than you what is best. Don't listen to the knee-jerk naysayers- focus on friends and family members that are supportive. I hope you both can keep things friendly and open, and that's all that matters for your kids. They will easily adapt if they feel loved and secure.thatdamngreendresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01447077996033438075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-85268229470855665692011-05-02T22:02:19.583-04:002011-05-02T22:02:19.583-04:00Good luck Bonnie. I think that quote is spot on, ...Good luck Bonnie. I think that quote is spot on, and it's so very sad that people who are supposed to love you unconditionally would be so judgmental and unsupportive. Your kids are lucky to have a brave mother who is at least willing to try to make a happier life for all of you.LChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02766152990735953232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-13852280372192915332011-05-02T21:56:59.041-04:002011-05-02T21:56:59.041-04:00You just lost a follower. I can not understand how...You just lost a follower. I can not understand how you can keep blogging while this is happening in your life...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com