tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post1995719950249155727..comments2023-09-08T05:50:02.938-04:00Comments on Small Town Fashionista: Winds of ChangeBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06570402319337666763noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-62588660316283741552011-12-02T18:03:54.033-05:002011-12-02T18:03:54.033-05:00glad to hear things are going well. I starting wri...glad to hear things are going well. I starting writing the bottom part before reading your post, so while this may not be appropriate per the topic...<br /><br />I just wanted to let you know that I really love most of your outfits and you have a great eye for color and shape combinations... but this one didn't strike me as flattering. you have a great body and figure, and the oversized, puffy nature of the top plus the (slighty-shapeless) long skirt doesn't do you justice. hope you take this as constructive criticism and don't feel offended! <br /><br />as for what you were talking about... I have been lately feeling terrible and ugly because a nasty rash/acne thing attacked my face and has not gone away in over a month. It makes me feel so ugly, and I feel so insecure that I won't go out without trying to cover it up. I used to go anywhere with or without makeup, I hate feeling that the makeup is necessary.Also, my hair has decided to revolt and I am losing a ton, and the texture has gone yucky. I just can't seem to feel pretty!<br />BTW I think you're beautiful, and I don't think you should have to hold yourself to photoshopped images of women to feel beautiful. Some effort is always good, but it doesn't have to be EVERY day or so time consuming!Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-87912970678740804382011-11-21T14:18:49.532-05:002011-11-21T14:18:49.532-05:00I think you are absolutely glowing in the photos o...I think you are absolutely glowing in the photos of your past few entries.Margueritedevillenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-63343183919371855232011-11-21T13:06:35.690-05:002011-11-21T13:06:35.690-05:00By the way, you look unbelievably beautiful tonigh...By the way, you look unbelievably beautiful tonight. You're practically glowing!ldin9noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-23952851545451448472011-11-21T12:05:34.686-05:002011-11-21T12:05:34.686-05:00deep thoughts, bonnie! good for you. although, got...deep thoughts, bonnie! good for you. although, gotta say, i think clothes and fashion are meant to be enjoyed...life would be pretty dull otherwise. but good for you, for thinking beyond them. love the fall colors behind you as the background to the gorgeous dusk peony!sheliahttp://anthrolife.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-72043374068240323542011-11-19T19:11:43.918-05:002011-11-19T19:11:43.918-05:00Bonnie, you can't beat yourself up for caring ...Bonnie, you can't beat yourself up for caring about how you look and present yourself to the world! There is nothing wrong with that. Now, if it become detrimental to you and hurts you in some way, be it financially or socially, then that is a different story and is perhaps something to maybe adjust in your life. I think there is a healthy balance. Being too hard on yourself is also detrimental.<br /><br />Love the colors in that blouse on you! You look so very fall! Hope you have a nice Thanksgiving planned for you and your loved ones. Are you braving the Black Friday shopping at all? Do you think Anthro will have a Black Friday sale?Catherinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-14349579909007410612011-11-19T13:24:46.887-05:002011-11-19T13:24:46.887-05:00I calls 'em as I sees 'em.I calls 'em as I sees 'em.Punky Brewsternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-90615712851474195882011-11-19T12:19:53.847-05:002011-11-19T12:19:53.847-05:00Alas no L lenses in my near future. I am taking al...Alas no L lenses in my near future. I am taking all contributions though. LOL. This is the 50mm 1.4 that I use the majority of the time in these shoots. I like the low light friendliness and the short depth of field that it provides. Not always shooting it wide open, but when I want that dreamy look that only 1.4 aperture can give you... That's my go to lens with STF but you've also seen the 24-105mm and even the 10-22mm.Train-wreck-engineernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-87360000655800868712011-11-19T09:45:46.446-05:002011-11-19T09:45:46.446-05:00first of all your photos and that blouse to die fo...first of all your photos and that blouse to die for, the background is so beautiful that I feel to move to NC ASAP :). second of all majority of women want to look good, always and forever. if you read history of fashion, red lipstick, shaving legs and wearing nylons became very popular after WWII. Women need/want to look their best to feel happier and IMO there is nothing wrong with that.<br /><br />p.s. what kind of lens do you use with your SLR camera. is it L series?Olyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-51536910424798383742011-11-19T09:06:24.651-05:002011-11-19T09:06:24.651-05:00Don't want to put words in her mouth, but I do...Don't want to put words in her mouth, but I don't know that Anika's mom was thinking quantity. It appears that the 2 of you probably agree. Being a good person and treating others well turns out to be an option for what you do.Jstathtnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-75780581787680174382011-11-19T00:48:40.169-05:002011-11-19T00:48:40.169-05:00Thanks Rebecca!Thanks Rebecca!Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-36775879874964563582011-11-19T00:48:13.967-05:002011-11-19T00:48:13.967-05:00Thanks for the encouragement!Thanks for the encouragement!Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-25687587084936207252011-11-19T00:47:14.683-05:002011-11-19T00:47:14.683-05:00Totally feel you on this. My older sister was alwa...Totally feel you on this. My older sister was always told she was pretty, and she put so much importance on it. I guess I was doomed from the start. After 3 kids and 34 years, my body isn't what it used to be, so it's been difficult adjusting. I know there are so many things in life more important than appearance, but it's difficult when society puts so much emphasis on it. I plan on documenting my journey through this blog. I hope you find some things on here that can help you in your own journey.Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-59772916703860420812011-11-19T00:36:30.679-05:002011-11-19T00:36:30.679-05:00Yeah, it's an epidemic. I think volunteering i...Yeah, it's an epidemic. I think volunteering is a great idea, but I think saying I have a habitual obsession with myself is a little harsh.Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-67583547200836671962011-11-19T00:31:01.503-05:002011-11-19T00:31:01.503-05:00Oh Lisa, I love this comment. I feel judged and mi...Oh Lisa, I love this comment. I feel judged and misunderstood by so many people, so when someone "gets" it, it feels really good. You have brought a big 'ole smile to my face. Thank you so much! <br /><br />P.S. I was in Walmart tonight and was very tempted to purchase a sparkly tube top just for you. ;-)Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-80407672447420450202011-11-18T20:36:24.870-05:002011-11-18T20:36:24.870-05:00The thing that struck me first was your statement ...The thing that struck me first was your statement that you think your value system was wrong to begin with, for so long. I don't know that I would whole heartedly agree with that. You valuing looking good and making every desirable asset you have sparkle (in public) is not really wrong. Self awareness like that is what keeps us separate from the folks who think that sauntering out of the house wearing tube tops, hot pants and UGG boots while sporting an extra 50 pounds is perfectly acceptable. I think that letting it limit your enjoyment in life is what's wrong, a mistake too many of us let happen early in life. From everything I've read it seems you're starting to line up the rest of your life behind the recent decisions you've made. Your values are changing, and that's perfectly fine, everyone's values should change over the course of time. Some of the core ones remain (as they should) the same, the peripheral ones change. I can't imagine putting the same value on the things and ideas I held in high respect at 20, now at 40. I think it would make me a very close minded, stunted individual. Sort of like the people you describe from your past, the ones who made so much effort to control you. You think? Maybe? :) Please just don't start investing in Walmart Fashion, bedazzled tube tops are never a good idea, no matter what your value system is.Lisa Stinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-22264973579273537602011-11-18T18:13:44.485-05:002011-11-18T18:13:44.485-05:00LOL. You and every other woman in the Western worl...LOL. You and every other woman in the Western world.<br />Have you considered doing some volunteer work or otherwise finding a way to get out and help other people? It is often a good way to overcome a habitual obsession with yourself.Punky Brewsternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-81387010728724793042011-11-18T18:11:41.864-05:002011-11-18T18:11:41.864-05:00I actually don't agree that it's "wha...I actually don't agree that it's "what you do" either. I don't think it's about how many things you can accomplish in life. Society places too much importance on that as well. It's about being true to yourself, and having good, solid relationships with people who matter to you. It's about being a good person, and treating others well.Lynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-77617039812479292692011-11-18T17:34:08.565-05:002011-11-18T17:34:08.565-05:00I can definitely relate to this post! I'm the ...I can definitely relate to this post! I'm the middle of 3 girls, and I was always told by everyone when I was younger that my sisters were sooooo pretty. I was the smart one; they were the pretty ones. I was envious of them. And then something happened in college, and suddenly I was getting alot of attention from boys. It was fun to be thought of as attractive. I was so happy because it seemed like everyone around me placed so much importance on it. The problem is that I'm in my mid-40's now, and although I look like I'm in my mid-30's, my appearance is fading. I know I've gotten things in life because of my looks...whether it be men, a job, etc., so I have placed alot of value in it. Now that it's gone (or going), I have to find other ways to find value in myself. It's tough growing old. I know this seems shallow but I wish I'd get the attention from men that I used to get. It made me feel good about myself. It's sad really that I don't feel good about myself when I no longer receive those compliments or attention. I know I need to focus on my inner qualities instead of my outward appearance, but it isn't easy. So if you can figure it out now while you're younger, please let me know because I obviously need help!Lynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-75706911807625566282011-11-18T14:49:03.224-05:002011-11-18T14:49:03.224-05:00I think society as a whole places a lot of emphasi...I think society as a whole places a lot of emphasis on outward appearance. In reality, it isn't what you look like in your lifetime, it's what you do. Good luck on this journey!Anikasmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-21371157193482484032011-11-18T14:38:13.510-05:002011-11-18T14:38:13.510-05:00I'm happy to hear this. It's so easy to ge...I'm happy to hear this. It's so easy to get caught up in appearances and "things" and lose focus on what really counts in the end. I hope things work out for you!Rebeccanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-17557358070506833382011-11-18T14:24:55.502-05:002011-11-18T14:24:55.502-05:00Thanks for the positive vibes, guest! I really nee...Thanks for the positive vibes, guest! I really need them today.Bonnie Irelandhttp://stfashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493987722691542290.post-18576557643085764752011-11-18T11:38:43.511-05:002011-11-18T11:38:43.511-05:00This is my favorite post I've read on this blo...This is my favorite post I've read on this blog. Very heartening to read this. Good luck on your journey.Guestnoreply@blogger.com